One of life's greatest survival skills is the ability to survive disappointment. We are often confronted with the situation where reality falls short of expectation. Things do not always turn out the way we had envisaged they would. Our reaction can be an emotional one but, at times, it can also be physical. We can … Continue reading The Deal With Disappointment
The Difference A Day Makes
Change is not always obvious. There are times when it can be almost imperceptible, but it is happening. Given time, what was ceases to be and becomes what is. The world keeps turning and we are faced with one of two choices...either accept change or refuse it. Reality, however, dictates that refusal is pointless and … Continue reading The Difference A Day Makes
The Challenge Of Change
It can be more than frustrating to repeat an action and get an unexpected result. Accepting that we live in a world that is, in equal parts, both predictable and unpredictable can be discombobulating. But uncertainty sits alongside certainty and surprises happen. The best we can hope for is to continue going along for the … Continue reading The Challenge Of Change
Turning On Delight
Happiness lives inside us all. It can be impacted by exterior incidents and circumstances. It can be battered and bruised. There are times when it is easier to access than at other times. The focus can become distorted. But it remains as a super power...a personal powerful resource, a survival tool without peer. However it … Continue reading Turning On Delight
Surviving Or Thriving
Connection requires effort. Ignored, it starts to erode. The result can be individual isolation. We need the security and comfort of connection. Sharing and caring are at the core of our emotional security. We are all unique in our individuality but, at the same time, there is so much we have in common with those … Continue reading Surviving Or Thriving
Where Honesty Lies
It's annoyingly true that we all have the tendency to hear what we want to hear and disregard the rest. Likewise we see what we want to see and turn a blind eye to that which we find difficult or unpalatable. It's all to do with following the path of least resistance. The problem is … Continue reading Where Honesty Lies
The Wages Of Rages
Anger is rife. Agitation and uncertainty abound. We struggle - to a greater or lesser degree - with the issue of abandonment...specifically the way we feel we are required to cease being one person to become another. It's in the gap between the two personalities that we can become confused. At its worst, we can … Continue reading The Wages Of Rages
Present And Accounting For
There is no time like the present. Now is here and it is happening in real time. It can also be said that there is no time like the past. Nor is there no time like the future. But what has been is done and no-one knows what is to come. Our next breath is … Continue reading Present And Accounting For
Happy Is As Happy Does
There are times when we feel compelled to attempt to be all things to all people. The attitude is fuelled by the mistaken belief that it is our sole responsibility to put to rights all that surrounds us. We want to do whatever it takes to ensure that everyone else is happy. Such attempts are … Continue reading Happy Is As Happy Does
That Thinking Feeling
The way we think and the thoughts that we have are of far less importance than the way we feel. Thoughts are random...feelings can be controlled and directed. Feelings are very much about reaction and it's the way we respond to the thoughts that we have that will dictate the direction of our lives. There … Continue reading That Thinking Feeling
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